My Card Reading-people pleasing breakthrough and more!

This past Friday I had a card reading with an incredible woman, based out of Crapaud, Prince Edward Island. I had won the reading, weeks prior, in a radio contest. I had won some amazing prizes along with this reading, but I know wholeheartedly I won because I was meant to connect with this amazing woman.

For 45 minutes, we chatted, laughed, agreed on basic and not so basic concepts about life and spirituality. We clearly see the world in a very similar way and had also experienced some pretty significant and similar life upheavals. I'm sure I could have talked with her all day.

I managed to derail the reading, with my excitement and incessant need to chatter away. I don't often instantly connect with people, but this connection was apparent and instant....like we knew each other before. We laughed and agreed that we were meant to be friends.

I couldn't possibly tell you all of the things she said to me, but a couple key points really stuck and I was left feeling that many of my own recent thoughts and feelings were really reinforced.

One of the very first things she said to me, that has left me doing a whole lot of thinking, was that people-pleasing is actually a form of manipulation. I've since read many write-ups on this concept and I have truly come to believe it. Being a people-pleaser is about being fearful of the outcome if you don't please. It's about the fear of losing someone if you're not exactly who and what is pleasing to them. People-pleasing is about manipulating the end result.  

The people in my life are going to see a lot of changes in me...a lot of personal growth. Some will stay and some will go...and it's all ok. As you grow, as you vibe higher, you will attract different people into your life and that is totally ok. You'll notice the same thing happen if you're low too. Different vibe, different tribe.

The other thing she talked to me about was moving my body when I feel low, instead of the default-over eat or shop. The thing about over eating, and shopping is that they both give me a temporary boost, but then leave me feeling guilty and ashamed. If instead I get out for a walk, in nature no less, I get a healthy boost-one that leaves me feeling refreshed. It's also about learning to be ok with uncomfortable, less than ideal feelings...that I have to sit in them and work through them...not just try and squash them down with some instant gratification. This was great advice for anyone. Simple, but significant. 

I'm telling you, this woman was better than therapy. I loved and appreciated every second of our call. Those 45 minutes helped me more than I can possibly express. It wasn't about revealing huge things about my past, present or future. It was much more about supporting the thoughts that had been recently filling my head. It truly was amazing!

The only down side is that it has left me with a constant stream of questions. I suppose it's how I am working through the advice and things...but I'm thinking so hard it's almost making me nauseous and giving me a headache. It also feels like a major breakthrough is happening and for that, I am grateful.