We ALL Matter

Is there a person in your life that you simply tolerate? A person who does or says mean or inconsiderate things to you, but you tolerate it for whatever reason? They are perhaps your boss, a friend or even a family member. Do you ever stop to understand their seemingly misguided treatment or do you just take it and bury it? Have you tried to approach them? Do other people see it too?

I tend to confuse my loved ones on this matter because I don't tolerate bs from people...until I do. If I let a person make me feel small, in whatever way, I also tolerate them. I allow them to treat me as less, I allow them to get away with inconsiderate acts or belittling words...until I don't. I will sacrifice my own mental health to avoid outing their behavior. I will sacrifice my own worth for theirs, but I don't actually think they are worth more. No one is. We ALL matter.

No matter what your job, no matter what your income, no matter what your education, no matter what your weight, or looks, or gender,or anything else-you do not matter MORE or LESS than anyone else. You deserve respect, like everyone else. You deserve kindess, like everyone else. YOU MATTER!

Chances are that if someone thrives on making others feel lesser, they have insecurities themselves. Perhaps they were bullied. Perhaps they didn't feel loved by their parents. Perhaps they have demons they never addressed. Their mistreatment of you isn't actually a reflection of YOU at all. It's a reflection of themselves!

I see so many people being mistreated everywhere I go. Observing how couples intereact in the grocery store...How a parent treats their child at the playground...in an office environment...quite literally anywhere you go you can easily witness mistreatment. People are so quick to take out their own shortcomings on others or take out their bad day on others and it plain and simply is not ok.

Everyone has a story. Everyone has a bad day, but the sign of a true warrior? Someone who doesn't take it out on others. Someone who doesn't use it as an excuse. Someone who ends the cycle of mistreatment and strives to be the best version of themselves. 

We are not perfect. We WILL make MANY mistakes, but try to remember that the more love and kindness we share, the better off we will ALL be. Isn't that truly the root of what we all want? To be loved??