Two terrible accidents in our community-July 21/24

Two terrible accidents happend in our small community this past weekend. One 78 year old woman lost her life and one 23 year old man lost his. I know both families and feel absolutely heartbroken for their losses and acutely aware that their lives have been forever changed.

Losing a loved one, no matter what the reason, changes everything. It changes how you see the world. It changes what you tolerate and won't. The absolute devastation, especially in the unexpected passing, leaves so much grief, and hopefully not a lot of unsaid words. It's so hard to even wrap your mind around the finality of it all, but the fact is that energy never dies. Their bodies are gone, but their energy remains. This is scientific fact. 

I believe very strongly that my Mom is around when I need her most. There are all kinds of undeniable signs. Sometimes they completely amaze me. I wish more than maybe anything that she was still here, alive and well, experiencing this life with us. I know she wanted that too. She didn't want to go. She was in denial right up until her final days.

It feels like such all consuming heartbreak to lose someone you love so fully and so without condition, but the bizarre reality is that you can learn to live with this pain. You can learn to feel joy again, even while the heartbreak lives strong in your heart. Your passed loved ones wouldn't want your life to stop because theirs did. If anything, they want you to live your very best lives, perhaps even in their honour. Not just by doing the things they wished they had, but by doing all of the things you want to do...within reason, I suppose. My personal rule is, "As long as you're not hurting yourself or someone else."

It's so cliche, but also fact, that life is uncertain. No time, whatsoever, is promised, and it is up to us to live without regret, to say all of the things, to do the things that make our hearts happy. The little nuissance things that happen in our daily life do not matter. Broke a dish? Doesn't matter. Stained a shirt? Doesn't matter. House is a mess? Does.not.matter.

LIVE YOUR LIFE! Do NOT miss out on the good stuff over stuff that can wait! Living cannot wait, but chores and insignifcant bs CAN wait!

I feel like there are so many things I have wanted to do in my life and haven't. Some of the things are really small, some take a commitment of time or money, but regardless, it is time to stop putting these things off! We cannot live like we have inifinity to acheieve our dreams and our goals. NOW is the time! It is all we can guarantee. This very second is all that is certain.

Theses lovely humans who lost their lives didn't know it was their last day here. They leave behind an incredible wake of sadness and love with no place to go. 

I am sending my love to these families in our community, today and everyday. May there someday be peace in your hearts again. Be kind to yourself during this terrible, terrible time.